Threesome is one of the most delightful fantasies
people indulge into. It may be the feeling of
power men get from having two women at their
disposal, it may be the string of orgasms two men
can give a woman or it may be a simple and common
wish to experiment. Nevertheless, you should
really try to understand your motivation before
acquainting your lover with your dream of a
mini-orgy.
If you're dreaming about
threesomes because it's on the forbidden list,
then you're probably going to be fine. If, on the
other hand, you simply wish to sleep with your
lover's hot friends, then you might run into some
problems. The basic thing with this fantasy and
with ANY other fantasy is to refrain from forcing
anybody into anything.
Don't show up with
another person and say: "Guess what? We're going
to have a threesome!". This is uncool, to say the
least. Also, don't push your lover into this.
Discuss the issue, but don't use pressure. If the
other's not comfortable with the idea of bringing
a stranger into your most intimate act, then drop
it.
Your partner is very likely to jump to
the conclusion that his or her bedroom performance
is inadequate and you want to change the air a
bit. Jealousy is one step away and we don't want
to go there. It's even worse if you are bisexual
or gay and thought of coming out with a threesome.
There are better ways to inform your partner of
your sexual orientation, ways that take into
account your lover's sensitivity to this piece of
information.
The basic idea is to talk
your partner into it and to avoid making the
choice of the third partner alone. Make sure your
lover is involved at every level of the
preparations and make sure that she or he is ready
to share you. On a more positive note, if you can
really talk your partner into it, then hold on
because it's going to be a wild ride.
Three people means that much more pleasure
for everybody and that nobody would leave the bed
unsatisfied. The positions may feel a bit awkward
at first, especially if none of you is used with
having three people move around a bed. Two people
can act on initiative and response. Three people
have to be careful not to get in the way of each
other.
Another problem is the fact that
the established couple has to include a stranger
in their erotic play, while the third person must
get used not to one new partner, but to two of
them. Still, these are the problems that make
threesomes even more fun for those involved.
Anyway you do it, don't expect to set up a m?nage
a trois on the spot. Stick to threesomes for the
pure sexual pleasure and you'll be fine.
Bringing in a stranger for sex is one
thing, making that stranger part of the emotional
relationship is quite something else. And be
selective about who you're inviting over for
threesomes. You may want to skip your friends,
unless you trust them implicitly. And never ever
involve somebody from the office. The risk of
something going wrong is too big.
