Many of us have experienced at least once in our lives that special kind of sex which strips the lovers of their self-consciousness and makes them feel very close to each other, entwined in their own private reality and far from the worries of this world. Love has this wonderful power to takes us to a different time and space, if only for a while. But this is something very rare among the people of the Western world.

More often than not we are too busy, stressed, tired or depressed to even feel the love and passion within us. Therefore sex and love are only satisfactory instead of wonderful. But things don't have to be this way. Giving in to stress and the daily grind is a decision that can be replaced with a new attitude toward life as a couple. And for some people, sex and love feel great indeed.

Those who have learned about Tantric sex and know how to practice it are truly lucky because they can reach a level of intimacy not known to the average couple. But it takes a conscious effort to reach this state of shared pleasure. The eager lovers must first learn to relax themselves and put their worries aside. Everything that could spoil the mood should be left outside the bedroom.

And aside from relaxation, the two lovers should try to focus on each other. Before thinking about positions, the lovers must relax and focus on each other and on their love for each other. The only purpose of Tantric sex is to allow lovers to share pleasure on such a level that each of the two partners can feel the orgasm of the other.

Of course, such a feat takes some time and practice, but it can be done by just about anyone who puts his mind to it and who follows the rules set down by Tantra gurus. Remember that it all begins with relaxation and focus. Next comes the stimulation of blood circulation. Most of the minor pains and aches in our stiff muscles and joints are caused by the poor circulation of blood through the body.

Long hours spent in office chairs or in cars are bad for the cardiovascular system and also bad for your erection, because erections are nothing more than blood flowing into the penis. In order to be able to make love like a Tantra adept, you have to have a better blood flow. Massages are a very good way of keeping your body healthy and fit, ready for a good roll in the hay.

These are the basics of Tantric sex, things that you must consider before thinking of who's going to be on top and who's bringing the condoms. Tantric sex is less focused on the individual pleasure and puts a premium on sharing the feeling. The two lovers must be aware of each other and each must try to feel what the other feels and prolonging the moment in order to create a strong bond of shared feelings that stays with the lovers through the years.